I, unfortunately, enjoy watching “Sister Wives” on TLC. In case you aren’t aware, “Sister Wives” is a show that follows the lives of 4 wives married to the same man. And although I don’t agree with their lifestyle or even like Kody Brown (he’s the husband), I respect their decision to be married to the same guy. I feel for them that they cannot be “open” about their relationship to the world, even though it appears like they are a healthy, functioning family and are raising pretty decent and respectful children.
They live in Nevada; I live in Minnesota. There is a different fight for families going on in Minnesota. It’s the fight for “Traditional Marriage”. There is a proposed amendment that we, the people, have to vote on to make marriage defined to a man and a woman. Okay, well, why would that matter? Why is it so important that we need to spend time defining marriage between 1 man and 1 woman?
I wanted to know. So I went online and searched for vote yes website. They actually have a page dedicated to my question:http://www.minnesotaformarriage.com/why/
Let me give you the run down of it, this viewpoint believes that it’s important for the people to vote yes because of the children. We need to protect the children. Wait, no. Read further: “But marriage is a special relationship reserved exclusively for heterosexual unions because only the intimate relationship between men and women has the ability to produce children as a result of that sexual union.”
So basically you have to be married to have children? Uhm. As a pregnant and unmarried woman, I have to disagree. And why do married couples have to have babies? What if they don’t want babies? What if they want to adopt? What, if god forbid, they don’t even have sex? That’s a stinker in your argument.
It doesn’t end there. They pretty much say that “single” parents are ruining our children and that marriage between a man and a woman prevents fathers from running. Seriously. Because being married makes you a ‘present’ and ‘good’ father…I think we can observe several thousands of fathers that this is not the case. They are married to their baby momma but are not involved in their children’s lives.
Proponents to this Marriage Amendment also argue that when we allow “homosexuals” to marry or genderless marriage, it eliminates the meaning of marriage. Which to them, is to fuck like rabbits and make bunnies.
So what if you are infertile and married? That means your marriage, yeah, it’s not real because you can’t breed. You adopt? You don’t really love that child, because according to them, only their biological parents can really love them. You don’t like your spouse but you have children? You have to stay together because your children will NOT be happy and healthy if their biological parents are not married. That’s what this website basically says in argument for the marriage amendment to pass. That’s not good enough for me to vote yes for. In fact, it discriminates on a lot more people than just gays and lesbians. It means you have to have children to be legitimately married. Which is fucked up, because I know a lot of people who would be happy together married, but should never be parents. I also have a wonderful set of godparents who had to adopt because they could not conceive and they make great parents to both their adopted son and their goddaughter. I want them to stay married.
A person once told me that she just wants everyone to be happy. It is so simple and cheesy, but at that point in my life, it’s just what I needed to hear. If getting married makes you happy, you should have the right to do so. If you are consenting adults, why not? Even if that means 4 wives are married to one douche of a guy, so what? I really think we are making a mountain out of a mole hill….well, actually an ant hill.
Finally, I just want to say how important it is to not only vote no; but to vote these idiots out of office. We elect these officials to represent us and make decisions for us. What do they do? They put not one, but two amendments on the ballot for us to vote on. They aren’t doing their job. And to mention that there are more pressing and urgent issues than marriage and voter id, they really aren’t doing their job.
I’m a grad student at St. Kate’s studying to be a children’s librarian. I’m expecting a son and happily cohabitating with my partner of over a year in a horribly conservative suburb of Minnesota that actually supports Michele Bachmann. I occasionally pay attention to politics and sometimes write in my blog, www.hannahkdeefindsfeminism.blogspot.com, about living as an out feminist.
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